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Trying this again at 46 after a long break

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I’m 46 and just started dating again after being out of the game for almost 8 years. Divorce, work, helping my mom, all of it kinda kept me busy and I honestly got comfortable being on my own. But lately I’ve been feeling like I miss having somebody around, and I decided to give dating apps another shot. I’m in Atlanta and I’ve been talking to a Black woman I met on Hinge. We’ve had two really good dates, both low-key stuff, dinner and a walk at Piedmont Park. She’s easy to talk to, funny as hell, and there’s definitely chemistry. My only hangup is I’m overthinking everything because I haven’t dated interracially before. I don’t want to come off weird or like I’m making it a whole thing, because to me she’s just a woman I’m into. How do y’all handle that early stage when you’re interested but don’t want to mess it up by saying the wrong thing?

Mar 12

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#1 · Mar 12

I’d say don’t overthink the interracial part unless she brings it up. At our age, most of us have enough life behind us that the real issue is compatibility, not labels. I’m in Houston and met my partner on Match when I was 49. We’re different races and different backgrounds, but what mattered most was whether we liked each other’s company and could talk through awkward stuff without getting defensive. One thing though: if you’re new to dating again, slow down a little and don’t try to force a relationship because it feels rare or exciting. That can happen when you’ve been single awhile. Enjoy the dates, keep your eyes open, and let it unfold.

DeAndre W.

#2 · Mar 13

Honestly, you’re probably doing better than you think if you’re already asking that question. The biggest thing is probably just keep treating her like a person first, not some “interracial dating” situation. If the vibe is good, keep building on that. Ask her about her life, what she likes, what makes her laugh, all that normal stuff. I’m a 51-year-old Black woman in Chicago and I’ve dated outside my race a few times. The men who made me comfortable were never the ones trying too hard to prove they “get it.” They were just genuine, consistent, and curious without being nosy. Keep it simple, and if something comes up that you’re unsure about, just be honest but not dramatic.